Created by Everett Dietzler
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Introduction
I need you to know that you are loved. I need you to know that you are bold and brilliant and beautiful. I need you to know that there is nothing broken about you. The system is what’s broken. The world may seem cruel and unkind at times because it can be. But for every person that makes you feel less than or worthless, I need you to know that a hundred times as many people couldn’t live without you in this world. I can’t live without you in this world.
I know the world can feel really unsafe right now. It is okay to feel angry, sad, or depressed. I know that you might be questioning whether or not to come out and share who you are with the world for fear of your safety. That fear is real and it is valid. I know that you might be feeling grief about not getting to live the life that you dreamed of. I feel that with you.
When I was seventeen, I saw the movie Boys Don’t Cry. I had been out as queer for three years, but I couldn’t help but feel like there was still something different about me. When I saw the life of Brandon Teena portrayed on the screen, I felt such resonance with his story. For the first time, I saw myself reflected back at me. And then the film, which is based on a true story, ends violently and tragically. Every part of me that was questioning my gender retreated back into myself until I was twenty-eight years old. But that is okay because that was my process, and this is my story.
No one gets to tell you who you are or how to live your life. This is your story and your timeline. It is okay to feel like you have to take measures to keep yourself safe. It is okay to act in defiance of the social norms that try to restrict you to very narrow ways of being. It is okay to express yourself in any way that feels authentic to you.
Whether you decide to hold off on coming out, scream from the rooftops that you are a beautiful trans human being, or anything in between, I need you to never, and I mean never forget who you are. At your very core, you are powerful, you are resilient, you are the embodiment of true authenticity.
You come from a long line of fierce trancestors that fought to build a more just world for all who came after them. It is important to know your history and your strength, and that you have never been alone in this fight. And I vow to you that I will keep fighting to build a better world for you.
I need you to know that no one can ever take away your power or your internal sense of knowing and being in this world. I need you to know that no matter how dark your days may get, that the sun will always come up over the horizon. I need you to know that there is a community out there waiting for you to find it, and maybe even lead it someday.
I need you to know that you are loved. I need you to know that you matter, that your voice matters. I need you to know that you are right in every single way. I need you to know that you are never, ever alone.
Conclusion
You are not alone, and you never have to go through this journey by yourself. There are people who care about you, who support you, and who want you to thrive. Your story is yours to tell, your identity is valid, and your existence is a powerful act of courage. No matter what, you belong here.
If you ever feel lost, know that help is available. You are part of a strong, vibrant, and loving community that wants to see you shine. Reach out, connect, and take up space in this world—because you deserve it.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
There are many online and in-person support groups for trans youth. Organizations like Trans Lifeline, The Trevor Project, and local LGBTQ+ centers provide safe spaces where you can connect with others who understand and support you.
Your safety is the most important thing. If you feel unsafe, consider reaching out to a trusted friend, teacher, or counselor. If you need immediate support, call Trans Lifeline (877-565-8860) or The Trevor Project (212-695-8650) for help.
Coming out is a personal journey, and there’s no right or wrong way to do it. When you feel ready, start by talking to someone you trust. If you’re unsure, organizations like The Trevor Project offer resources and counseling to help you navigate the process.
Many LGBTQ+-affirming therapists specialize in working with trans youth. You can search for LGBTQ+-friendly counselors in your area through organizations like I Am Clinic, TherapyDen, or Psychology Today.
If you’re in crisis or need immediate emotional support, please reach out to one of these helplines:
Thrive Lifeline – 313.662.8209
Trans Lifeline – 877.565.8860
The Trevor Project – 212.695.8650
Find the Support You Deserve
You don’t have to go through this alone. If you’re looking for community, support, or guidance, reach out to organizations that can help. Take the first step in connecting with people who see you, value you, and want you to thrive.
Need someone to talk to? Fill out the contact form below to connect with affirming support.
Let’s start the conversation and find the support that’s right for you.
